Annoyed

So after a long holiday weekend, an arthritic person is bound to be hurting in the days after. Which I am. Its rainy and crappy out and my joints, esp my hips feel the same as it looks outside. Now if that didn't annoy me enough for a tuesday back at work after a long weekend, Now I come to find out my MAID OF HONOR, one of my bridesmaids and two other friends cant make it to my Bridal shower in 3 weeks because they forgot about it and made other plans....GRRRRR....Today just sucks all around.

Ohh Emmie I would be so annoyed too!  I hope they get their priorities straight in the next few days as I think at least one person has it wrong!  I really feel for you.  If I could make it right I would. 

bigted

Emmie,

I am right there with you, that is part of their responsibilities for the wedding is to be there to plan the event, host it etc..etc...  I agree with Bigted they need to get their priorities straight. 

Keep us posted sweetie.

Tess

OMG - there is no way they should be missing that.  Perhaps you should pull a "Bridezilla" and insist they go!

Its times like these that I am reminded why I eloped...

-Kati

All of my friends know how much I HATE to be in weddings.  But all of my friends know I do love being the “BAD GUY” for 4 weddings now I have been the designated “BAD GUY”.  My job was to remind people when they needed to be reminded who the bride was and that it was all about her. 

Do you have anyone that can play that roll… the “shes the bride, this is her day, you WILL go to the shower, you WILL make this special for her, and you WILL like it!!”

Hell… if you need me… I’m here… I’ll crack some skulls for you J

[cracking knuckles, ready to back up Kat]

Seriously, this is a big, big breach of wedding etiquette! My response would be "Oh, well, then I guess [insert name here] will fit into your dress..."

Since Kat and Carolan offered, I am right next to them. 

How do we find these girls....Or do I need to call "My Cousin Vinny"?  YES I have several cousin's named Vinny.  (so there).  

Tess "the one armed, stalking Italian bandit"

Tess "the one armed, stalking Italian bandit"

hahaha. tell them this and they'll be terrified!

Although, to play the devils advocate here, I've had to be in a lot of weddings. I love everyone, but when each wedding involves 3-4 events (at least! between multiple bridal showers, bachlorette parties, the wedding, the dress shopping), that is a LOT of money and if its out of town, can be  LOT of traveling! I have a limited budget and a really busy job... when each wedding (by the time you buy a dress, a plane ticket, presents for the shower the bachlorette party and the wedding itself) costs hundreds of dollars, it can get really hard- sometimes, you have to prioritize and maybe even miss some of the intermediate events to make sure you can do everything you want to be able to do for the actual wedding. It might not be that they don't care about you, or don't think your wedding is special, or are trying to be bad bridesmaids, sometimes other things get in a way and people might even be unsure of how to say something about it. Maybe instead if you just focus on how psyched you are about them being with you on a really special day in your life, that will take the pressure off worrying whether they attend all of these other things? I mean, the wedding is the point of the whole thing, right!

(again, just one point of view, I don't know the whole story!)