Dear Todd,

You, my friend, have the Band-Aid Syndrome.  You've been dreaming for so long about the possibilities of what may happen if you broach this subject with him that you've grown terrified of the potential (and perhaps nonexistent) pain involved.

Rip off the Band-Aid!

Call up your friend and ask him if he wants to grab lunch sometime.  While you're eating and chatting, gauge his interest.  Maybe he's been flirting with you this whole time, but you were too nervous to notice.

And maybe he's not interested, but would like to be platonic friends.  Whichever the case, you'll have vanquished this overwhelming weight hanging over you.

-- M

Dear Dirk,

If you don't tell her, you'll regret it forever.  (No pressure.)  Especially if, years on down the road, you discover that she held similar feelings for you.

Sometimes folks do fall in love with their best friends (and we should all be so lucky as to have our best friend as our partner!).  That is nothing to be afraid of.

Ask her if she has a free hour coming up, sit her down ... (breathe) ... and tell her how you feel.  Be prepared that she may not feel the same way about you.  But also enjoy the release as you get these feelings off your chest.

-- M

Dear Kimberly,

As we "grow up," we unfortunately learn that there are never enough hours in the day for all that we love to do (work has a persistent way of intruding upon that time for most of us).  So it's natural for you to feel that you may have to give up the central role music has played in your life up to this point.

However, don't give up music entirely.  There is no reason you cannot play your instrument for fun in your free time -- even if that means only an hour a week while in nursing school.

You can change the direction of your life without giving up that which you cherish.  Make it a point to bring music along for the ride.

-- M