death
The Mourning Daughter
My mum passed away about a year ago. She was such a joy, always the life of the party. So much has felt empty since that time, and I oftentimes find myself lost in remembrance, in sorrow. Friends have said I need to move on, but I don't even know in which direction to point my compass. -- Callie in Cardiff
Dear Callie,
Grieving our lost loved ones is not easy. We feel that their presence -- their energy -- has been stolen from us, leaving us less than whole.
Please don't admonish yourself for experiencing this. Grieving is a natural process.
However, ask yourself this: Would your mother have wanted you to drift aimlessly about, wallowing in endless sorrow? Your were close to her. What would she have wanted you to do? What did the two of you enjoy doing before she passed?
"Moving on" doesn't necessitate radical changes in your life from before. You can return to the life you loved -- highlighted with the remembrances of your mother and the vitality she brought to everything and everyone around her.
Chin up, young person. Wherever your mother is now, I'm sure she'd enjoy seeing you smile.
-- M

