It's a rainy, ugly day here in January.  There's nothing new happening, and my mood has slowed to a gray haze.

The combination of the weather and the season invite me to think about a kick-start.

I wonder if you are running on fumes and need one, too?  When we're living with chronic pain -- and unpredictable physical and emotional challenges -- our reserves get low.  Something as ordinary as bad weather or a demand from our boss or family can send us into a funk.

I've had fun imagining some quick pick-me-ups that we could use -- ideas that can propel us into a little better space and give us some happy energy.

I'm planning on doing one a day for the next week!  Let me know how it works for you.

Shake Up That Routine

Usually I do the same things in the same order every day.  Yes, this saves time.  But the rut I get into has a limited view.  These ideas are small, and may seem silly, but even a little tweak can release a little energy that can build.

• Go a different way to work or school, or on your carpool today.  It takes a little thinking, but that's the idea!  New sights!  Different vantage point!
• Eat something different for breakfast.  I get stuck on my usual -- what if I made a poached egg?  Or had a new kind of fruit?
• Take a class you've never tried.  On my list is tai chi and pilates.  Yours might include bridge, or Spanish dancing, or Thai cooking.  A short-term commitment to an innovative experience can stimulate your creativity.
• Say no to something.  Give yourself some free space.
• Take 15 minutes to daydream.  Most of us push and rush and tick off to do's with no time to let our minds relax and expand.

Physical Comfort

• Bring some fresh flowers into your home.  A flowering plant.  Start some seeds.  Living green presences can lift our hearts.
• Take a dip into a bath (investing in some good smelling oils or bubbles) or go to a sauna.
• New sheets?  A snuggly comforter?  A better reading light?
• Something to look at from your desk or kitchen table that makes you feel happy.
• If you sometimes get a massage, try a different kind.  If you never get a massage or body treatment, this is a great time of year to try something!  Get a referral from a friend.  Some of my clients like the hot wax treatment on their feet.  Reflexology is an easy way to start.

FUN

• Getting yourself in gear to allow something fun.  That can be a challenge when most of life feels like a long slog up hill.
• What unused gift cards do you have lying around?  A restaurant you haven't gone to, some shopping?  You may have a treat waiting for you that you have put off.
• A board game you haven't pulled out in a while, coffee with a friend, going to a movie, allowing yourself to get and read that fun looking best seller -- you have some ideas of your own that you haven't accessed, and this is a chance to let it happen.
• Some of you are creative -- you write or sew or paint or make jewelry -- but your projects are in a closet or heaped up in a corner of the room.  This is the season to bring them out and make some space and time.  Creative pursuits are the elixir of happiness.  Enjoy.

OK, those are my quick start ideas.  It can be hard to move yourself from slug pace towards something that will give you a mental and physical lift, but it's worth it!

Let me know how it goes.

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What are your intentions?

Here we are -- into the new year and new decade.

What do you want to be different in your life?

It can be such a hard question.  We either see so much that needs to change, or we aren't sure what could happen.

But the exercise is worth thinking about, especially when you live with a chronic illness.  Your body and its unpredictable demands may paralyze your sense of hope and your expectation of a future that you can plan.  Thinking up goals is daunting and can bring up the feeling that this isn't possible.

So instead of planning with your head, sense what you intend in your heart.  Bring your attention down into your heart space and listen to where you want to focus your imagination and your energy.

It's not a set of goals and strategies, but more an internal centering.

Let yourself take some time.  This is a process and it requires your attention and some room in your schedule and in your mind to listen to what you already know.

What are you intending for your life this year?

Some of my clients are doing this exercise and discovering some surprising things.

One person thought her goal for the new year should be to exercise more.

She has made this resolution and goal several times, and it created a lot of guilt and frustration for her that she never "kept her resolution."

This year I suggested she listen to what she already knows in her heart and see what she might intend for her year.

She realized that her intention is to be more active -- not to just sit around feeling stuck.  But being more "active" is not the same as exercising.  She can be more active by planning to go out with friends, and that can include walks but it can also include museum visits and trips to the local public gardens.  As she listened to her heart, she realized she wants to move and do things -- and that will get her body in motion, but the physical moving is only part of what she wants.

My client chose to create an intention for more activity.  She took out her datebook and penciled in some times, and then she made contact with some friends.  What a difference from not "keeping a resolution"! By listening to what she wanted -- and letting go of a requirement for exercise -- she was able to move forward easily.

It may take some reminders that this is her intention as the months pass, but the good news is that she is no longer stuck in a rut of doing nothing and feeling bad.

This can happen for you, too.  Let go of some of your expectations of yourself -- and the rules that go with them.  Shift into your heart and pay attention to what you really want.  That will help you create an intention or two.  See if it isn't easier for your energy to flow in that direction and let me know how it goes.

Best to you as we embark on this decade!

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We must not, in trying to think about how we can make a big difference, ignore the small daily difference we can make which, over time, add up to big differences that we often cannot foresee.

-- Marion Wright Edelman

The effect of giving on mental and physical health seems to be in the air these days.  A new book by Cami Walker -- 29 Gifts: How a Month of Giving Can Change Your Life -- was recently brought to my attention.  Diagnosed with a progressive illness, holistic healer gave the author a prescription for feeling better:  giving a gift to someone every day for 29 days.  Walker's book is a description of how that benefited not only those who received, but how she -- the giver -- also reaped rewards.

Giving is a practice that researchers have studied.  The benefit seems to be about two things:  giving meaning and a biological boost that may be hardwired. Hands-on volunteering -- that is, work that involves direct contact with people -- seems to hold the most benefit (Psychology Today, 1988).  It is not clear exactly why this works, but the effect is unmistakable:  those with chronic pain feel better, are more able to cope, and possess improved moods.

This is what the professionals like to call a synergistic effect -- it is less cause and effect, and more a subtle weaving together of all the influences into a more healthful and positive state of being.

It doesn't have to be formal volunteer work.

On her new Web site, 29days.org, Walker invites comments and gives ideas about how to give.  She suggests that giving is a way to strengthen your health, along with exercise and medication.  It may be as simple as a note or a phone call.  In a recent article in Yoga Magazine, one of the authors describes her practice of baking a cake for someone every Saturday.  It may be adding a volunteer hour to your week, and doing a less structured act on other days.

If you decide to take on this opportunity, it seems that what is most beneficial is the daily practice that invites you to turn outward to someone else.  That is what reminds us that no matter what the state of our health, we have something to offer, and that there are those who need us.  The emphasis on thinking of others may relieve stress, and it certainly opens our hearts.

The web of connection and relationships made of kindness and openheartedness is the healing balm that spreads in every direction, even in ways we cannot see or know.

We are gearing up for those New Year resolutions.  Do you think you are ready to try the 29 days challenge?  If you do, let me know how it works for you, what you choose to do, and how you feel.

Have a blessed and lively holiday season, and may your New Year be healthy and full of opportunities to give and grow.

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