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Friend/Lover/Roommate

Dear Ms. Meniscus, I am moving in with a friend from college. We became really close friends over a short period of time -- too close actually. Now that we are moving in though, I am beginning to dread it. The clinginess is more than I can handle: calls throughout the day, "What are you doing?" and "Where are you at?" The need to be around each other 24/7. Knowing that we have both moved on from each other, but still having that spirit about us, living together I'm afraid is going to be more than I can handle and I don't know what I should do about it. -Sleepless in Scranton

Dear Sleepless,

It seems obvious you two were romantically involved. Living with friends can be bloody difficult -- living with former lovers even more so. What is particularly stressful for you in this situation is that, despite having "moved on" from whatever relations in which you two were engaging, your roommate desires a continued social intimacy. But you want to keep him at arm's length.

You have to talk with him. Tell him what you told me -- it could really alter his behavior (I'm going to guess he has no idea you feel this way). Living with the tension for the next year is not worth it.

--M

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